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Get a firm mattress they said, it is good for your back they said! While a firm bed works for many people out there, it simply is not comfortable for everyone. If you have found yourself living with a mattress that is simply too firm for you, we are here to help.
The good news is that a firm mattress supplies plenty of support. (Something you cannot get out of a too soft mattress, or a worn out mattress) There are many ways you can add pressure relief and cushioning comfort to a firm mattress in order to make it feel softer. Keep reading for our top tips on how to do just that.
If you have purchased a bed in a box mattress that came to your home compressed in a box, then you may take a few days for your mattress to fully expand. Which means you mattress may feel different on day one than it does on day ten. It also takes a while for your body to adjust to a different feeling mattress. If you have been sleeping on a broken down mattress, sleeping on a new supportive mattress may feel uncomfortable while your body adjusts.
It should take at the most around 30 days for your body to fully adjust to sleeping on a new mattress. Which allows for more than enough time for most trial periods to allow you to return if the mattress still is not working for you. If you are considering returning a mattress try to contact them sooner rather than later, they may also have suggestions for how you can make your mattress work for you.
Even if you have a soft pillow top mattress, the bedding you use can limit the amount of pressure relief you experience with your bed. If your sheets are tight and taught, they can create barrier between you and your mattress. Think of it like a trampoline, you are not even experiencing the pressure relief of the mattress because your sheets are so tight that you are practically suspended above the bed.
Ways to avoid this from happening is ensuring that you buy properly fitting sheets, and sheets that have a bit of stretch to them. If you have a deep mattress, be sure you are purchasing deep pocket fitted sheets that lay comfortably over your bed. Then look for sheets that have a small amount of Lycra or spandex in their blend. This will help allow your body to sink into the top comfort layers of the bed more easily.
Keep in mind that if you invest in a mattress topper that your beds overall thickness will obviously increase. So even if your sheets fit fine now, or you have a thin mattress, you may still need to invest in deep pocket sheets with added stretch.
This is likely the first option you think of when trying to create a softer feel to your mattress. This is honestly because it is the fastest way to create a significant change in your comfort feel of your bed. By adding a mattress topper you are essentially adding a new top layer to your mattress.
Which is why it is important to invest in a quality mattress topper, as it is the part of the mattress closest to your body. Our top tip for choosing a mattress topper? Read reviews! Keep in mind that not all mattress toppers are soft and fluffy, while others may be too soft. Not all toppers are created equally.
If you have a breathable, cool sleeping mattress with any enhanced fabrics or pillow top, this is all going to get covered up by a mattress topper. Thankfully many mattress companies have mattress toppers featuring the same finishes that their mattresses have. Choosing a mattress topper like this will give you the same cooling feel and other benefits that your mattress has with the added pressure relief and softness of a mattress topper.
When purchasing a mattress topper, be mindful to what your topper is made out of as this will greatly impact your overall comfort.
If you tend to overheat at night, try to avoid memory foam and instead look for breathable materials like cotton, and wool.
If you do choose memory foam, try to find some with gel infusions and other heat retention preventing materials.
You do not have to purchase a mattress topper from the same company in which you purchased your mattress. If you love the quality of your mattress and you are just looking to soften it, then sticking with the same brand is a good way to do this. However, you can choose a different mattress topper that has other features from a different brand and it can be a great blend to supply you the comfort you desire.
There are a lot of cheap mattress toppers out there that are simply put, not worth it. Low quality foam slabs often smell, overheat, and are either too firm, or so soft that you sink so much that you hit the firm mattress underneath.
In fact buying a less expensive supportive firm mattress and buying a high end, multi-layered, high tech cooling mattress topper, can potentially be a way to save some cash. In other words, if you find a really good mattress topper, and it is going on a quality supportive mattress, it is money well spent.
Find our top recommendations for Mattress Toppers in our list of Best Mattress Toppers.
Stay cool and comfortable with the Bear Pro Mattress Topper. Great for athletes and anyone wanting pressure relief and support.
The Avocado Alpaca Mattress Topper is a lofty mattress topper filled with a mix of cotton, alpaca, and sheep’s wool. Making for an extra soft and cool sleeping topper. Good for those looking to add softness and thickness to their bed.
This oh so popular mattress topper is full of natural and eco-friendly materials. This is a high quality foam based mattress topper this is sure to please.
The perfect mattress topper option for the memory foam lovers out there. They extra plush mattress topper is a fluffy cloud of foam. Made with copper infusion to keep it extra cool.
These Quick Zip sheets have a removable zip off flat sheet that makes it incredibly easy to wash. The main reason for choosing the Quick Zip for this category is for the design of their fitted sheet. It is extra extra deep pocket. This gives the sheets plenty of room so they don’t get too taught.
The original purple sheets are cozy, comfy, and most importantly stretchy! The stretch allows for more pressure relief. Which makes your mattress feel softer, or enhances the feel of a soft mattress topper.
Purple is all about the stretch! Their SoftStretch Sheets are even stretchier than their original sheets. They are super soft and allow for plenty of cozy sinking into your mattress. Perfect for getting the most out of pressure relieving comfort layers.
The Jersey Knit sheets by Tuft & Needle are oh so soft with just a bit of stretch. They have deep pockets and a cozy feel. These sheets are a great option if you just want a touch of stretch.
Now that you know how to go about making your firm mattress feel soft you can start sleeping more comfortable now. It is always easier to make your bed a little plusher than firmer, so even if it feels a little stiff in the beginning, the benefits of long term durability and support of a slightly firmer bed will outweigh the cons.